Where fear resides


All to often we would love to change or improve something in our lives. We know how to make it happen and have the desire burning inside to make it reality. We can picture exactly how it would look but we never take that first step because of one little thing… fear. Of all the things that could hold us back, we allow fear to control every aspect of our life. There is only one place fear has no control on us but I want to talk first about where exactly it is.

The past

How many times have we stopped ourselves because of our failures and mistakes of the past? For me, it has happened way too many times. When we are stuck in the past, it’s impossible to see and embrace the present. I understand that there are a lot of memories, emotions, and feelings in the past but we can not stay there. It’s time for us to move forward.

No matter how much we stay in the past, we can not change one thing about it. We can never change the outcome to a certain situation. No matter how much we may want to. What ever happened has happened and all we can do is learn from it. We need to embrace it for what it is and not let it torture us for the rest of your lives. Please do whatever it takes to come back to the present and stay here with us.

The future

Wow…this is a hard one for a lot of people including me. We tend to waste a lot of our time playing out multiple scenarios that never happen. Creating so much fear while we try to figure out exactly what will happen in the next five minutes or more. We may never find the exact answer or result that could actually happen in the future and yet we find ourselves doing this daily.




Then there are some of us, like me also, that determine our future from the past. We dwell on the mistakes we made and are so afraid to repeat them again. Even though each situation is different we use the past to figure out the future. I know it’s nearly impossible to predict the future accurately and yet I still do it. It’s time for me and everyone that struggles with fear to finally move our lives to where it’s safe.

Present moment

There is true freedom and peace within the present moment. Here fear has no control of you. Fear can not tell you all the mistakes of the past or fill your mind with endless “What if?” questions. The only information you have to make a decision is whatever is happening in that present moment. In that present moment, you are your true self and not the lies found in fear.

You might be asking yourself “But tom how can I get back into the present moment if I am stuck in the past / future?” Or maybe your thinking “Tom you have no idea what I struggle with daily and being present is impossible”. You are right that I don’t know what your daily struggle is but you are misinformed about living in the present as impossible. The answer is found within YOU.

There are many books, videos, and people that will tell you how to be in the present moment. That is all wonderful information that you can check out but everyone is different. What works for me will not necessarily work for you. That’s why the answer to achieve peace and freedom is only found in you. If you don’t know exactly where or what it is, then I encourage you to take the time to figure it out. It will benefit you more than winning the lottery. It’s time for you to kick fear out of your life so that you can embrace the peace and joy of life. Until my next blog post… Share. Inspire. Conquer.





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