introvert struggles

The struggles of an introvert

There have been many blog posts written explaining what it’s like being an introvert. I felt the need to write my own blog post about it so that I can continue helping others understand what it truly feels like. I have written about my depression and anxiety previously. This is sorta a continuation of sharing the personal side of me. As you read this please remember that every introvert is not the same. We are unique and original just like you.

Phone Calls

I despise making or receiving phone calls. If I have a strong and comfortable relationship with you, then its not as bad. Why do I hate them? It is because I have to respond quickly. I would rather think about our conversation and my response before saying a word. There are just a few people in my life that I am really comfortable and ok with talking to on the phone.

Alternative: Text or message me. I will respond back to you faster than returning your phone call.

Small talk

I am always thinking and over thinking every minute. I look forward to having long, deep conversations and not just chit chat. When I talk to you, I want to learn something new or dig deeper into something. Majority of the time, even before you say a word to me I will know whether or not if our interaction will be a conversation or just small talk. This is because I search my surroundings for others that may want a deep conversation.

Alternative: Always be ready to actually talk and not just chit chat. The conversation doesn’t have to be a hour long.

Shy or Awkward

This is not true for me. I can be a very outgoing person when the situation or circumstance needs me to be. It takes a lot for me to come out of my “safe zone” and share my thought with you. The harsh reality is that I don’t have the energy to waste on people that are not going to spend the time to get to know me. I will genuinely try to learn as much about you as I can. That way when I see you again, I will come talk to you and not try avoiding you.

Alternative: That person you see standing alone on the other side of the room. They just might be waiting for the right person to come over so they can share their thoughts.


Yes I love to be alone. Not all the time though. My alone time allows me to “recharge” and also has a lot less fear involved. There is no fear of not responding quick enough, did I say the right/wrong thing, do I really have to answer this phone call, etc.. My seclusion time involves listening to music and playing video games. Other introverts have different activities they do during their seclusion time.

Alternative: If someone wants/needs alone time, it has nothing to do with you. Embrace their alone time and they will appreciate you even more.

There are other struggles being an introvert but these are the big ones. These are ones that I deal with daily whether its with others or by myself. I just want to help educate others that are not introverts. Trust me, I see extroverts and wish I could be just like them because they seem to be normal. Truth is I am normal, just a little different than others. My fellow introverts… we need to embrace who we are. That’s what makes us unique.

What are some of the struggles you deal with being an introvert?

Until my next post…Share. Inspire. Conquer.


  • Raymond Baxter (#)
    December 1st, 2016

    I totally feel this! 🙂 – I’m half/half I think!

  • Anne (#)
    December 1st, 2016

    I can relate to this, I think that people think me stand offish when I’m standing in the corner avoiding everyone, when really I enjoy it when someone takes the time to involve me in their conversation. I hate speaking on the phone too.

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